Picking your bridal party

The engagement ring is on your finger, the wedding date has been set and the venue has been booked – now comes the difficult part – picking your bridal party.
Choosing the special friends or family members to accompany you on your wedding day can sometimes stir up more emotion than picking a groom!

Here are six common guilt-inducing scenarios and what to do about them:

DO YOU HAVE TO ASK... a friend at whose wedding you were a bridesmaid two years ago, even though you don’t hang out with her anymore? You just can’t shake the feeling that you “owe her.”

No need to sweat it - there’s no quid-pro-quo contract you have to fulfil. Relationships change, people move on and the chances are that she’d feel uncomfortable anyway.

your super close friend who’s due to give birth just two weeks before your wedding?

WHAT’S A GIRL TO DO? You should ask her, but also reassure her that you’ll understand if she can’t come to all or be part of the wedding. You don’t want to make her feel guilty if she’s got to leave early or bow out of walking down the aisle.

DO YOU HAVE TO ASK... your fiancé’s sister, whom you’ve only met a couple of times?

WHAT’S A GIRL TO DO? If your man had three sisters, you could probably skip asking them, but since there’s only one, you really should include her. After all, this is one relationship that isn’t going anywhere - call the move an investment in holiday harmony for decades to come.

DO YOU HAVE TO ASK... all four of your Thursday “Girls Night Out” buddies, when you’re only tight with two of them?

WHAT’S A GIRL TO DO? You don’t need to ask all of them, but be tactful and make a point of limiting any bridesmaid related chit chat when you’re all out together.

DO YOU HAVE TO ASK... your best guy friend? You’re afraid he’s going to look like an idiot holding your bouquet.

WHAT’S A GIRL TO DO? Go for it! Nowadays it’s perfectly okay to have girls on the groom’s side and guys on the bride’s. Call him an “honor attendant,” have him dress like the groomsmen, and let him participate in as much of the prewedding stuff as he’s comfortable with. Unless he’s the GOH (guy of honor), he doesn’t have to go anywhere near your bouquet! And if the girls decide on a group gift from Thongs R Us, all he has to contribute is his share of cash.

DO YOU HAVE TO ASK... your best buddy from High School who’s turned into a crazy party girl? You’re worried she’ll jump the bartender and turn into a walking bridesmaid cliché.

WHAT’S A GIRL TO DO? As long as she doesn’t spend most Friday nights in lockup, go ahead and include her. Give the bar staff a heads-up and you know her well enough to give her the “it’s my big day, don’t spoil it” speech.

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